Stigma (a poem for World Mental Health Day)

Why do you always stop and stare?
Is it because I’m ‘not all there’?
Do you think I’m a freak?
Or a nut?
Or a loon?
That I’ll howl like a wolf when it’s next a full moon?

You try to avoid me.
You think that I’m dangerous.
Do you think that the illness I have is contagious?

When you see me approach you cross over the street.
And as I pass by you, you study your feet…
Scared that to look me
Right in the eye,
Will lead to your end,
And that slowly you’ll die;
Riddled with illness
And strangeness
And pain.

But believe me,
My illness is the cause of less pain
Than your response to my illness
Again,
And again.

Poor mental health is a killer,
It’s true.
But some of it’s down to your actions.
Yes.
You.

Don’t look away,
And don’t stop and stare.
Instead treat me normally,
Please.
If you dare.

I’m really just like you,
In need of a friend.
Stop staring,
Start listening
And help my pain end.

 

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51 Responses to Stigma (a poem for World Mental Health Day)

  1. Lisa McDonnell says:

    This is just WONDERFUL! XXX

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  2. Cubby says:

    Powerful words with a strong and important message. Fantastic poem!

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  3. lulupoetrycorner says:

    Thoughtful and heartfelt words. Ignorance, a disease that’s catchy?

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  4. This is wonderful! There is nothing else to say. It has touched me deeply. 😊 Xx

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    • PookyH says:

      Thank you Christine, I was going to say I’m glad it resonates with you – but I’m not. I’m sad that it resonates with you but I’m glad that it seems to express what I want it to

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  5. This is a very powerful poem. I have a friend in Australia who has a blog titled Dancing With The Black Dog, which tells of his journey with depression. His blog’s been twice tweeted by Stephen Fry, he recently began working at a well known Australian mental health agency beyondblue and when invited he goes into workplaces to speak to employees and employers in an effort to make people more aware and understanding regarding mental illness. I’d like your permission to post this on Facebook and mark it to his attention.
    One of the things my son would speak of was a sense of being invisible, so this poem has immense resonance for me.
    I’m so pleased you decided to write poetry.
    Tricia. xo

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  6. Wonderful poem, powerful words and important message, Pooky!

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    • PookyH says:

      Thank you. I’m both glad and sad that this one seemed to resonate with people. It nearly didn’t get written. I’d been working all evening teaching a parent workshop on eating disorders and didn’t get home until 10.30pm and was exhausted so I was going to do my first day without writing a poem. Then decided I must. Luckily this fell out of me pretty quickly and I was able to head to bed.

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  7. txbutterfly3 says:

    I’ve struggled with issues most of my life and was undiagnosed for a long time. When I finally went through the actual tests, I was diagnosed as severe anxiety, depression, PTSD and memory disorder (from 9 concussions). I grew up Catholic and was always told to bury things in my family, never talk about it. That of course led to some pretty bad decisions in life. The best thing I ever read was “it isn’t about what is wrong with you, it’s about what happened to you”. How liberating can once sentence be. I love what you wrote and am glad that people talk about mental disorders since it’s not something you can really “see” like a wound, instead people see the behavior and just don’t understand.

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    • PookyH says:

      I’m sorry that you’ve had to contend with so much – it sounds like you’ve had a very difficult time. I hope it’s easier now that you have a diagnosis and perhaps some support?

      Stigma is a big issue to me – I work and research in student mental health and have been astounded by the stigma still attached to mental health issues in our schools (and beyond) today. We can all do our little bit to raise awareness and to support each other though.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and taking the time to leave such an honest comment – both kind and brave of you x

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      • txbutterfly3 says:

        no need to be sorry… I’m not. Everything I’ve been through, I’ve been through. I made it out on the other side, changed, but victorious and stronger. ❤

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      • PookyH says:

        I definitely believe the old adage that the things that don’t break us make us stronger. It’s great that you have such a positive outlook.

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  8. karmami says:

    a wonderful thoughtful poem

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  9. alicepage14 says:

    I love this poem, it expresses the frustration and anger felt by many towards stigma but in a effective humorous way.

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    • PookyH says:

      Thanks for taking the time to read and to comment Alice! I’m intrigued as to how you stumbled across this poem (people seem to keep on ending up here, I’m not sure how though I’m delighted for it to get more air time as it’s a matter close to my heart).

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  10. Hi. Loved the poem. The fear of stigma re mental illness is HUGE (although I notice more bloggers are admitting to having depression and anxiety) . Also, I’ve never met anyone else that knows about Pookie by Ivy Wallace! 🙂

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    • Susan, I had a Pookie book as a child and bought some for my son. I loved them.

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      • Pookie was magical, a rabbit with wings and his belongings in a handkerchief on a stick. I’ll have to dig it up! My mother painted me a Pookie picture. 🙂 Poor Pookie!

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      • PookyH says:

        Did you Tricia! I didn’t know you knew my namesake…. No one ever does!

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      • It was my favourite, Pooky. I was devastated when my mum gave all my books to my cousins. When I discovered I was finally pregnant the first thing I bought for my babe was a copy of Pookie. 🙂

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      • PookyH says:

        Oh how wonderful! I’ve never had any copies, they seem to be collectors’ items and priced accordingly.

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      • Pooky, i just checked out a site titled AbeBooks.com. They have 3 second hand copies of Pookie, 2 are reasonably priced and one is very expensive. Might be worth a look.

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      • PookyH says:

        I will take a look when I’m back from my holidays 🙂

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      • Have a wonderful time. xo

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      • PookyH says:

        This comment really makes me think of my sister who, aged 28, still talks of when my parents gave away her bike when she was 3… Sometimes parents miss the value of these things. I’m sure I’ll make similar mistakes…

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      • My mother was a cruel woman who considered reading to be a waste of time. An of course reading was my favourite thing for as long as I can remember. I had an Aunt who would buy me books when I was little. My home is now filled with hundreds of books, it’s affectionately known as The Book Depository. I’m sure this is in part due to the reading deprivation of my childhood.

        I don’t think you’ll make those mistakes, Pooky, because you already work on being sensitive to your girl’s needs.

        Also, I totally understand your sister not being able to let go of the bike issue. Of course books are a little easier to collect than bikes. 🙂
        For myself I see it as my way of nurturing that broken little child. (It was a bit more than being deprived of books)

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      • PookyH says:

        Then I can completely understand why you’d surround yourself in books xxx

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  11. We’ll said Pooky. We’ll said. Teaching a class on stigma tonight for NAMI. May I share it ?

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    • PookyH says:

      Yes please do, I’m glad you find it worth sharing.

      Out of interest what is NAMI? Good luck with the class, I’m delighted to hear that you’re addressing this issue head on. Too few people are.

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  12. What a powerful piece

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  13. deerussellthomas@gmail.com says:

    Well done Pooky! I have enjoyed browsing through your poetry and other blogs. Your courses are also well written! Thanks most of all for your willingness to share your knowledge, your experiences and your care for others.

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  15. Amazing poem and sadly so true. You’re so talented! 🙂

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